“The Business of Me” gives the participants methods they can use to overcome their fears of managing their own money. We have the participants write down their negative self-talk in a notebook and next to it write a countervailing positive affirmation. That sounds easy, doesn't it?

Well, it’s not easy in fact; it's a very difficult process. It takes a lot of work to be aware of all the negative chatter that goes on in our heads. But if we develop the skill of listening to the “noise” and actually recording it along with a countervailing positive affirmation, and doing this routinely, we are on our way to moving past our fears and beginning the process of creating the lives we want for ourselves.

Fear kills everything! It stops us from moving forward and keeps us stuck in the same place. And for many who have endured domestic violence the fear may cause them to return to the violent relationship as fear of the unknown becomes more frightening to the victim than the abuser.

Fear doesn't go away easily. I know - when I experience fear I picture the description of the fear written on a blackboard and see myself erasing the fear and replacing it with a positive affirmation. I do this in addition to writing them down. Both exercises calm me so that I can continue creating the life I want.

And yes I battle my fears everyday but I win, fear doesn't!